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Shortshot Nancy) Hello Teresa, sorry I haven't been here in a while, have been busy with attorney's and getting my will updated so everything is legal. I answered the letter that my daughter in law wrote, her letter and my response's' in the same letter. I also have been trying to just take care of me! I need time, rest, cry still, am lonely also, but I know it just takes time, which I have trouble with. I have really never given "me" time for anything. Now I have time but it's not the same, I guess. Just don't know what to do some days. Also my #2 son Randy was able to get medicine for his wife on August 3, and put her in the back seat and drove to her folks place over 500 miles so she could be near her mom. The doctor's told him that they couldn't do anything else for her and she would need to be on hospice. She has lung cancer and brain cancer and was in the hospital. She hasn't been able to eat. The doctors tried to get some agency to transport her to her folks, but it would cost $10,.000.00. So Randy just made the back seat as comfortable as he could and put her there.
I haven't heard anything since he left. I want to call, but I don't want to either. The call what ever would be said would put me back to - too many emotions .Sometimes they are hard to control and I'm tired. My last cat scan on the 25th of July, I found out on the 2nd of August is looking good, no more growth, just a small amount of fluid that has been there for quite a while. I'm on immune therapy which seems to be doing me some good. Not sick, just somewhat tired. I also have been going through old medical files and putting them in a pile to burn.
My friend that has been helping me with my book is still going through his problems that is brain cancer, radiation. He wants to come here to my home to help get the book finished, (I want that too!) I will call him Kevin, he is 51 year old person, ten years younger that my youngest. He has sort of "adopted me as his second mom (his mom has passed.) He was married for 20 years, his wife died of breast caner and has no children. Hey I have another "kid" to help when he can. It is nice to talk with him and I don't mind having another "kid". Have a great day! Nancy

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@shortshot Hello Nancy,

It is so good to hear from you. I'm glad that your daughter-in-law made it to her parents' place. I'm sure it will be a good thing for her and her parents.

I'm also glad that you have someone to help you with your book. Yes, it is always good to have another kid, isn't it? It sounds like you are a good mother.

How wonderful that your immunotherapy is working well without a lot of side effects, that is such a blessing for you.

You certainly have a lot of projects going on right now. Keeping busy is a good plan, Nancy.

Keep in touch and let me know how you are coming along, I enjoy hearing from you.

Wishing you many blessings,
Teresa

@shortshot Hi Nancy:

Just checking in to say "hello." I hope you are continuing to do OK with your immunotherapy treatments. How is your daughter-in-law, Joy? Still working on your book?

Hi Teresa, Joy passed away last Monday night. Son Randy took her to her folks home and stayed there with her, till the time came. I don't know if there is a service or not. I just know I'm really very tired. I woke up at 4am this morning . My grandson sot married this morning and they are having a party tomorrow afternoon. Some one will pick me up and drive me to the party, about 60 miles. Not only the grieving part, but some how I've lost my medical cards and medicare card. Don't know where. That is all I need at this time. I'll get better I know, but right now It's really tired out! Thanks for checking on me. I'll get back soon. shortshot nancy)

Hello @shortshot Nancy,

I am so sorry to hear of Joy's passing. I know that she had been very ill, but it still is difficult to come to grips with, isn't it? I hope that your family will have comfort as they go through another loss.

I feel sure that everything you lost will show up again. There is something about the grief process that causes a lot of confusion.

I will continue to pray for you and your family. Take heart, there are others who care about you.