Nancy/shortshot, Thank you Teresa, I have been composting a letter to my son & wife, Not sending it till I have my daughter look at it. Everything is still raw, emotional, teary and what ever....... I don't want to give the imdression that I "hate" or anything. I just want my feelings known and respected of who I am. I am not going to be treated the way (I think) that my son & wife are treating me. They have even talked about the will and what is in It. First "I'm not dead" the old will is not any good. I have already had to talk to a attorney with all this stuff. Hopefully this will all go away soon. Meanwhile I had blood work last Friday and a cat scan last Wednesday and will have my immune therapy on Thursday. I have been feeling pretty good since starting this type of "chemo". That's a plus!
My #2 Son's first wife died of skin cancer and his second wife has Lung cancer and Brain cancer. She isn't doing very good. Hasn't been eating much this last week. My #3 son has his bone marrow sending out too may red blood cells and is on Cancer medication. As a mom I try to do what I can for all my kids, but I can't help then. I have put them all on the prayer list at church. So with all this going on I have to take one day a time. I have to take time for me! Nancy

Hello Nancy, @shortshot

I so admire the methodical, appropriate way you are handling this situation!

Your contact with an attorney is also important. We all need legal help in times like this. To invest the time and money to consult a professional is so good (I have seen what happens when people leave their estates "up to chance" or hope that the family members will all be agreeable after their passing).

It sounds as if all of your children are dealing with their own health and personal issues and that is undoubtedly adding to their stress. You are insightful to see that and realize the impact it is having on them. Your dependence on outside resources (your church's prayer list) is a great way to "share the burden" of your problems - very important - as we can't carry it all alone.

I am so glad that your immunotherapy is working so well for you and I'll pray that your upcoming treatment will continue to help you.

You are doing a great job of taking care of yourself, Nancy. I look forward to hearing from you again. Will you keep me updated on how you are doing?

Nancy/shortshot) Yes I will keep you posted, this avenue of getting things off my chest and see the reports of people you read and comment on my post's is a way for me to help me stay human and on my toes. I also am the proud owner of a "medical alert" which will tell my daughter and one son and my pastor if I fall. I also have a "county caregiver that stops by every week to ten days to check on me. I am blessed to have people to help if I need something. More paper work today, so better get busy. Nancy

August 3/ shortshot nancy) Hello Teresa, I had my treatment yesterday, cat scan showed no growth, and Doc says I'm doing just fine on the immune therapy. Next session is on the 23rd. Received bad news last evening. #2 soon Randy, has had to take his wife Joy to the hospital, she has been there now for five days. The doc's can't help anymore, hospice to start soon. If possible he is trying to some how get Joy to her folks who live 500 miles away and to start hospice there. I called him this morning and told my son that I loved him and am so sorry this is happening for the second time. Also if there is anything I can do to help, that I wanted to do it. Doesn't make any difference what, just so I can do something helpful. I have her on the prayer list at church. I really think I ought to talk to pastor sometime in the next few days when he is able to visit. My daughter Bec, ordered me a "alert" to wear in case I fall or something. So am wearing it. More later nancy

Hello Nancy @shortshot

That is great that your CT scan showed no growth, that is such good news for you. I'm also glad to hear that you are getting an alert to wear, my mom has one and it gives us peace of mind.

I am so sorry to hear about Joy's condition. That was so good of you to offer them help in whatever way you can. When is your son planning on taking her on the 500 mile trip? That does sound like a difficult trip for someone so ill. I hope she does OK.

Keep in touch, Nancy. You have a lot going on in your life right now.

Teresa