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So In the midst of dealing with my Mom death, the estate, doing the taxes (mine and hers), coming to grips with the fact that I am an orphan (how weird is that at almost 50 years old), and all the other stuff life tosses at you I'm also dealing with a crazy person. My sister (in biology only) once again threatened to kill me. Now she doesn't make these threats to my face. She tells my brother while telling him things like "other Christians look down on you because your not married, your not a man because you've never been married". She recently said she was the only person who was a care giver to Mom. So I guess I just imagined most of the last 15 years of me helping out with my folks. The last 10+ of spending about 50 of the 52 weekends each year going to their home and caring for Mom every Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. My brother has evidently, according to her, been living with them since 2014 but did nothing. Thursday she not only verbally attacked one brother, but physically assaulted another. Her threats included the fact that she carries and has a gun. I did convince one brother (not the one who was physically attacked) to go with me to get a restraining order. She broke those about 48 hours into it. Happy Easter to us all, right. Did I mention she would tell you that she, though a sinner, is the best Christian that ever walked the face of the earth. We are all evil, wicked people and are just trying to take all the things and money she is entitled to have. First of my parent worked for that money. The only people ever entitled to a freaking dime of it was them. I am no happy that they didn't spend every dime. You got it go spend it. Live your life, be happy. Take that trip you want to take. No one else is entitled to a thing. FYI that "sister" turns 68 this year if your wondering.
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@kdawn32 You remain in my prayers. I also have felt in fear on my physical being from a female bio-sib. I say that because she has "disowned" me and I have finally accepted that and stopped any attempts to reach out. I am sorry that I have no answers for suggestions for you. My only solaces are that I know what I did and am doing for my parents; as well as what the rest of my siblings have and are doing. And, I can finally be grateful that we were poor. Father's life insurance paid for his funeral and my mother's will do the same. Thus, nothing to fight over after her death. When she went into a nursing home the vultures attacked her house and it is basically stripped of what was my childhood home and locked by the sibling that conned the ownership of it from my parents. Blessings to you during this difficult time.
@kdawn32, Hi! I read your post twice and I'll read it again but it sure looks like you got a need for some tension relief. She threatens you and is "the best Christian"? Wonders of the world...
Last night I sent an email to my son and as a side note I explained that one thing I'm interested in is studying the scriptures. Things are different from what we are taught.
However I've noticed that some people here get a little nervous around the subject, but in my opinion your sister has been listening to the wrong people or maybe just not listening because she has it all figured out. That's what I thought about 40 years ago and then things happened. Just saying that because your sister appears to have not gotten the message. I wouldn't engage in any preaching towards her, right now I'd do my best to isolate her and talk kindly to her, sometimes that can throw people off. Don't take any guff from her and don't let her lead you into a conflict, walk away in a polite manner. Myself, I didn't do that when my x started with her stuff over the phone. I'd get upset because it doesn't fit the person I've know over the years, then I'd just say, "Have a nice day! Bye!" Mary acted very different when I last saw her getting her stuff. I suppose the phone and distance is her moat.
@kdawn32,, I hit the wrong button! I was going to delete the big paragraph but I had laundry on my mind and got in a hurry.
It's sunny and warm today so I can hang my clothes. I have a dryer and all the laundry hook ups built into the bedroom but Mary didn't want them in the room so the machines are on the rear deck.
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Wow!
So sorry for all the issues you are dealing with!
Now that your sister disregarded the restraining order, what happens now?
Can you swear out a police report directly?
Good luck to you all!
Ronnie (GRANDMAr)