Hello @muppey

I realize that these thoughts were directed to @lisalucier however, I might have some ideas to help you hear. I have heard, on numerous occasions that recovery from loss is more like a zig zag rather than a straight line - so you might feel very good one day and feel like it all under control and then another day have the loss hit again and you will feel very burdened.

Your work in therapy and here on Connect should help prepare you to once again interact with "live people" so this is a good thing. Both venues are important to you now. Counseling, online support here at Connect and also spending time with friends/family who can understand and spend time with you.

I hope this weekend will be good for you.

Teresa

@hopeful33250, Thanks, I understand that these things have lasting impacts. Gossip is out of my control, it's out there but I don't think that many people are to concerned about me for it to be a bigger problem than already faced. I'll do without them when it comes to it. It's not like I'm a public person so it shouldn't go to far. Just lost two 'friends', that's all.

I intend to carry on with the therapy as the VA helped me when I needed to work out some Army related situations. I did not go to Vietnam, but it was violent none the less and lasted most of my 18 months there, not every day but often enough.

Reading about other peoples trials and such is helpful to me as my problems seen to become less after people talk of their long lasting depression and other pains, with thoughts of suicide and overbearing loneliness. Sure I'd like to talk with a person and seeomg little Mezi at the store with her infant son was nice. Talked for maybe five minutes but it was nice.

Been alone before and I can do it again, that's not a pity party it's just the way things go. I watched my brother Mike come into town and within a few days he's got friends and I've been here a lot longer than he. Just personalities is all.

Really am doing better since being on this site, I appreciate the help, advice and insight. Am able to adjust a little now.
Thanks
Mark

@muppey Hi Mark:

Glad to hear that Connect is helping!

Teresa

They say every little bit helps. Spent an hour talking with my niece this morning. Another broken heart, seems like no end to it sometimes. She wasn't ghosted but he was taken in the back of the Sheriffs car. Bummer's.

@muppey Sorry to hear that!

The only way to never have heartaches and losses is to never feel or love. Was just watching a TV preacher who said that as social beings, we will either associate with others or feel very empty. I won't do any preaching about how anyone would arrive at this conclusion, but I think I would agree. That being said, I am sorry that you seem to be getting piled on right now. Apparently you have the ability to show empathy and people appreciate that or you would have likely never spent an four on the phone with her. Good for you!

I'll listen to teaching but not good on 'preaching at you'. Think you know what I'm saying.
I know I must be doing something wrong that irritates people but no one will say, I've asked, and I get no response, so I wonder. It's ok, been there and will manage.
All the people here who are hurting and lonely and express what's going on and all that helps me a lot. Never thought I was the Lone Ranger in this regard.
Some people know how to deal with people and some don't. Would be a weird world if we were all the same. But a friendly world wouldn't be weird.
Funny you should use the word "empathy". I looked up the antonym for empathy a few weeks ago only to find out it was the obvious antipathy. Then there are several more words and another is sociopath. Hmm. Wonder who that could be? Hard people to deal with. That song, "Smiling Faces" comes to mind. They could care less whether they cause great harm or little harm as long as they get their way. They are always long term if need be and you won't know it. Takes experience, unfortunately. He won! We'll see.