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Loss and Grief: How are you doing?
Loss & Grief | Last Active: Apr 7 12:18pm | Replies (932)Comment receiving replies
I love your comment about supporting each other because that's what this website does. Although grief has similar symptoms, each of us recover from loss in our own ways and in our own time. Don't let anybody tell you that you should be "over it" and moving forward in life. There are many thoughts to process before this time comes. When four family members died in 2007, including my elder daughter, the mother of my twin grandchildren, I was at a dark place in life. To complicate matters more, my twin grandchildren's father died six months later, and the court appointed my husband and me as their legal guardians. It took me several months to realize I was grieving in the order my loved ones died. Sometimes I would go forward on the recovery path, and other times I would take a giant leap backward. Yet my grandchildren gave me hope that life would get better and it did. I accepted my emotions, let myself feel them, and named them when I could. This kept me on the recovery path. Joining a support group may help you. On the other hand, if you want to be alone, give yourself this gift. In the quiet you will hear your soul--the key to grief healing.
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My twin grandchildren, one male, one female, are 26 years old now and still give me hope. Even better, they understand what my husband and I did for them after the court appointed us as their guardians/caregivers. We are profoundly blessed.
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@harriethodgson1, "grandchildren gave me hope..." That sounds nice. Hang onto that big piece of hope and focus there. I've got a book called "Man Thinking". That's what I'm trying to do here.
My friend came by this morning and brought me coffee and a breakfast sandwich, plus her toddler son. Just saying about the little one because he's a towhead just like my sons, plus I like little kids. They stayed a couple hours and then she had to get to work...stacking firewood. I do that for myself only. I'm lazy. Hah, not really just stacking firewood to sell sounds like boring work.
Used to work hard building decks and stuff, that all disappeared for different reasons.
"On the other hand, if you want to be alone" I can live alone but I still like people. Mezi's visit helps because she's going through the same thing with her life, husband didn't come home from work. At the grocery store she tried to make believe it didn't matter but you and us here know better. She needed a listener and I was happy she came by. Joe is showing signs that he misses her and I'm rooting for them both because I know they are a match. I'm repeating myself but years ago Joe came by and said Mezi and I broke up. I didn't say much about that but he knew because I did say something like, "Oh,sorry." Brilliant I know but I was also thinking, "Yeah, Mezi's pretty cute and I bet there are lots of guys who would like hooking up with her." They made up that time.