hopeful33250 and harriethodgson1 You girls are making me laugh at myself. I've never even thought about what you girls do. When I last saw my wife she was picking up her furniture with her son. What really bugged me was she'd come up to where I was sittiing at my desk reading the computer which I always do. (I'd already helped with the heavy stuff and they could do the rest, yeah I know,) anyway Mary would come up to me and give me some trinket, she did it several times and I just tossed them aside. What the hell is that. You think a trinket is going to make me think of you or whatever, comfort me?
The last trinket she gave me she put her hand on mine which was resting on the chair arm. I was still in shock and it pissed me off and did not comfort me at all. I didn't pull away and she stayed there for a minute and then left, after she started crying.
I don't get this "linking objects" idea at all. Am I just to darned hard nosed or what? Stuff never impressed me, sorry but I'm looking for more than trinkets and stuff.
Not being argumentive, or belittling, I just really don't understand.

@muppey

I think that the "linking objects" thing has more to do with the loss, by death, of a meaningful and/or significant relationship. For many, it brings comfort. In the case of divorce, however, I'm not sure that this is as practical of an idea. Try to remember, @muppey, that this discussion covers all types of losses.

Teresa

@hopeful33250 I have my mothers winter coat,which I get so many compliments on, and her blanket she always stayed covered up with. My fiance love coo coo clocks. I have 3 of them. One of my step mothers collected salt and pepper shakers and I was happy that Dad ask me if I wanted them.

@littleonefmohio

These all sound like lovely "linking objects"! Thank you for sharing that.

I look forward to hearing from you again as you share your memories of those who have passed.

Teresa