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Thanks to everyone sharing grief and loss stories. So my son died on August 2016. Just now I sprayed his cologne on my wrists . I also put a bit of his hair pomade on my hair the last few days. Does anyone do this stuff. I don't discuss this with anyone as I understand they wouldn't get this.
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georgette12
Grieving moms do different things. My wife's son died in suicide. Mary seemed fine when I met her (lost in the woods) but after a few years she started wearing all black and dumpy clothes. I was confused but figured it out and just dealt with it. Nursed her through some awful pain and illness, cleaning the mess's and everything. She started filling better the last year or two then she just disappeared, just gone. Mean time I started buying her more colorful clothes and she really liked that. I guessed her size and bought over the internet. Perfect, after 22 years!
I really don't see anything wrong with a mothers grief at losing her child, no mom should have to live through that kind of pain. I'm really a first hand witness to that so talk to me if you want to. I'll try not to side step into myself which I do but I'm feeling better every day.
@georgette12, I've been re-reading some posts because you people make me think and I appreciate it all. It's funny that I said something like I don't have any "things" which I've attached to. My confession is that I do have two things which I for some reason have held back on throwing out. My first wife made me a robe about 40 years ago, maybe longer. I've worn it for that long until this past year it became to worn out. Now it's hanging on my chair so I don't stick to the naugh-a-hide. Really was a great robe.
My other one that I grabbed without even thinking about it is Mary's robe. She wanted a man's robe so I bought one for her about probably 18 years ago.
So now I have Paula's robe and Mary's robe which I use when I get up during the restless nights and drink hot milk.
So there you go. I'm a guy and never even thought, "Oh, I'm going to save these robes." Funny it took me from Jan 26, to the other day when I was adjust the chair robe.
Take care!
Markl
@muppey,
From muppey...taking time trips now. In post above I wasn't here on Jan 26, that's closer to the time when my friend Mezi talked to me about her husband leaving her, he ghosted her. Anyway I know Mary and I talked about poor Mezi. Mary must have been thinking of her great escape then and she concealed it well. I had no reason to suspect.
Wonder if I'll get some relief from this? Can't believe I was so trusting that I never questioned...I did confront her talk to her on something but was waved off.
Oh well...Time to go MGTOW. Part kidding, some things I agree with but some of the guys seem a bit far out and mean towards women.
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@georgette12
I'm so glad that you can find comfort in these products that your son used. They are important reminders of the place he had in your heart and life. It really doesn't matter if other people "don't get it." If it is important to you, that is all that matters.
Thank you for sharing that lovely idea with the rest of us.
Teresa