I made through lost my keys 4 times before the tears started to flow. Well written. It get's old having people tell from day one that my father was old and have lived a good life. That implies that his life and his death no longer mattered. That I should never grieve. I also hate hearing time heals or aren't yo over it by now. You are right no that even other who lose the same person you lost have different relationships to them and because of that will grieve differently.