Still working on this.

Amberpep, My wife just disappeared Feb 1. Just poof, gone. She called about 5-6 hours later and by that time I knew she was gone and my body started shutting down. When she called I couldn't move so it went to the recording and she told me to pick up the phone but I couldn't, then she says she is at her sons place and will not come home. Then she tells me she is divorcing me. I was clueless. The reason I went into shock was my landlord knocked on my door before the phone call and dangled an envelope at me so I said, "What's this?" I don't know Mary just asked me to give it to you. I opened it and there was some money and a receipt from the bank saying this account is closed! What? That was a blow, then the phone call then a few hours after the phone call her son had driven 150 miles to pick up Mary's clothes and medicine. Her girl friend was there and she barged into my home and Jon guarded the door. I thought he was a friend but I think Mary poisoned the well because he was angry.
Anyway I wound up in the hospital after sitting paralyzed in this chair for hours until some time after 1:30 am. Ambulance picked me up and during the ride I was about half conscious when the Paramedic was doing her tests. She yelled, "Holy crap man are you trying to kill yourself?" Well that startled me. Is Mary killing me? Anyway she told the driver to "speed'er up, we gotta get there fast." I survived but I was out for about 5-6 hours and they wouldn't let me go when my brother came to pick me up. A night in the hospital is as boring as watching paint dry. Now I've got a medical restriction on my drivers license but live in the middle of no where so I have to drive like a criminal. The law states that they can impound my jeep and in extreme toss me in jail. Mean stuff. There's lots more to this story which includes lots of deceit as I discover what she did. Gossip bombs left behind. She called about 7 times but every time she twisted her nasty dagger a bit so I'd get po'd and say goodbye and hang up on her. She was so sweet before. Then she joined a crazy church which her son and her 1st x belong to. Long story. I should stop for now...good to write it down though, thanks for listening. VA is taking care of me know.

@amberpep, Just starting on this divorce trip. The sheriff never got my signature when he served me. I reviewed the law and it states that a signature is needed for the serving. However it's all no fault in CA, so I won't need to go to court or anything. The clerk said just do nothing, that's the fastest way to get rid of her.
The serving for signature can be done via, certified mail or a process server and of course the sheriff. Sometimes people get angry and up here where help is like 30 minutes away, I think they prefer a deputy do the serving instead of a little girl.
I've just been passive about all this because that's the way it is. I told my wife that I can be mean but I prefer to be nice. That was several months ago.