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Severe anxiety, not wanting to get out of bed
Mental Health | Last Active: Apr 13, 2018 | Replies (21)Comment receiving replies
Thank you for having great faith in things getting better. It was a crying day for me, my stomach at this time is knotted and I feel nauseous. My poor husband disappeared on my today because he hates to see me like this and can’t help. I ask him please don’t leave me alone because I gave no idea what I’d xausing this and I don’t know what to do for it or to make it stop. Yet a thank you for rep,ying it means so much to me
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My husband only went to the finished basement to watch TV I was in our family room. I went down and talked to him to make sure he wasn’t mad at me. He was in tears because he doesn’ kniwxwgat to do to help me. We talked and he came back upstairs after awhile and sat with me. I am very fortunate to have a loving caring husband. I just want to feel better like I always used to
I'm so glad that you are able to talk through things, and that you have a loving husband. Depression and anxiety can be a real challenge for relationships. Lots of us would like to feel better. I'm trying now to accept that the way I feel now is my new normal, and adjusting to it. I would like to be happy again and experience pleasure the way I used to, but I don't know if I'll ever get back there. I think that for me, acceptance and adjusting are the steps that I'm taking right now with the help of a good therapist. I hope that tomorrow will be a better day for you.
Jim
@cdcc - did you see my recent reply to you? You sound so much like me!
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I have different signs of anxiety, but it's there, nonetheless. I can't take Ativan, as it makes my heart race, but I do take Clonazepam. On Friday, I only had one pill left, and I had been going back and forth between the doctor, the local pharmacy and my mail order pharmacy. I finally got the prescription filled at 5:00 Friday. My anxiety level was a little higher every day this week, maybe not as high as yours but high enough. It's strange how it affects our bodies in all kinds of ways.
I hope that by this evening, you're feeling better. Did your husband come back soon? I imagine that seeing you hurting is stressful for him. Have you talked about it with him? Would it be helpful if he were to go with you to the psychiatrist appointment?
I know that it's been hard for my wife to watch me deal with anxiety and depression and especially suicidal ideation over the past 13 years. She really doesn't understand that I can't just snap out of it. Many people who have never experienced mental health problems don't understand, and even pile on the guilt and accusations such as you're just looking for attention. The lack of understanding is understandable, but it doesn't mean they can't learn. I'm terrible at starting the hard conversations, but maybe you can engage him in some dialog about how you feel and about how he feels.
A counselor suggested to my wife and me that we begin writing our thoughts in a couples journal, which we did, and we were able to put thoughts in writing that we never would have in conversation.
I see a therapist weekly, and sometimes it seems like 3 weeks between sessions. I didn't have a therapist in 2016, until April of 17, and I was pretty suicidal and desperate by the time I finally got an appointment. I know how it can seem like forever when you have to wait for that appointment. I hope you will stay connected with us in the meantime. We're praying for you.
Jim