@njcafe24 For the foreseeable future, this will become 'your life's work.' Your grand opus. It's the last great undertaking, possibly, probably, that you and your partner will experience together, with you taking up a ton of the slack over time. Not that there cannot be any more fun or experiences to share, but for now, I recommend boning up on the subject like your admission to grad school depended on it. Arm yourself, imagine and do 'thought experiments' about possible eventualities, keep notes, ask questions, read tons, and if you ever need to, find groups of people who meet even once a month to share their stories and tips.

And, remember....you count, too. You live, you breathe, you lament, you fret, you ruminate...along with the best of us. Your life matters.