@jpj1952 I understand basing your life on a certain kind of hope-a hope that has absolutely no possibility of coming true, a hope that is totally illogical, a hope that denies the facts, a hope based on lies, and on and on has little or no benefit. But, denying a reasonable hope needed to deal with a challenging human condition is depriving the sufferer of the basic necessity needed for the healing a positive outlook can give. It is similar with "acceptance". Many believe that we must accept the things we can not change, but that is not true-for there are a multitude of things (like what many are enduring here) that are simply NOT ACCEPTABLE ! It eventually dawned on me that I had to accept that this is my life right now and the sooner I deal with it the better. I just don't accept that is that, there is no hope and roll over. What I am getting at is that how I perceive my condition can make me part of the problem or part of the solution (repeating myself once again). I can write from experience for many times I am still part of the problem and these affirmations hardly dent my comfort and ease with negativity. I'll keep trying though-what else can be done?-because giving up is not an option.