@shmerdloff
You make some very good points! If we go into adulthood with a weak sense of self, it is like walking through life carrying an empty paper bag. We are constantly looking for someone to fill it, and we often choose people to fill it. In order to free ourselves from the narcissistic person, we have to begin filling our own bags with healthy relationships and successes.

It can be difficult to do, that is why we need support and an understanding on how to fill those empty bags.