Hi, Laughlin 1947,
I am almost in your identical situation. I had a Left THR in 2023 done by a premiere ortho surgeon, but I was left with femoral nerve pain (like fire ants under the skin), which has subsided (but still there) since then. At first, I was told it would "go away" in months (6, 9, 12, 18) but NOT. The ortho did a bikini incision, very neat and clean, but I never asked about what kind of incision and would never have asked for a bikini incision (haven't worn bikinis in decades).
So my right hip is, and has been, bone on bone beginning when my left hip was diagnosed, but the left never hurt. The orthopedic surgeon on the left said I had 2 spurs and that's what caused my pain. My right may sometime "ping" if I rotate a certain way. So I avoid that movement. Otherwise, it does not debilitate me.
I will add I am not a "doctoring" person - for better or worse. Born and raised in coal mining territory in WV, we didn't have lots of medical resources, so we dealt with many situations and ultimately got better - unless it got worse and probably died. As we said in WV, sometimes you can swap the witch for the devil. At any rate, I do not plan to have the right hip operated on until that hip seriously affects my daily activities and quality of my life. Recuperating from the left was ok but I wasn't leaping tall buildings within a few months.
So bottom line, I believe in resorting to serious and invasive surgery like THR when it is absolutely necessary. I've been to my ortho and he agrees and has never said to do it earlier if I'm getting along fine. Of coure, it's everyone's choice and decision to make -- for better or worse. I am 79, in good health (except for normal aches and pains/like the tin man), but exercise, am active, still working part time. And you're right about the anesthesia. That could be the very worst. So many risks and only take them if no other choice. (Forgive typos)
@mackad2024 Thanks for your personal insights and experiences. I have enjoyed the Mayo Clinic blog immensely, primarily due to others who explain treatment options and their good/bad outcomes. Over these past few years, it seems to me that surgeons want (eagerly) to operate and not offer other treatment options. One personal example I have is that, in April 2025, I had arthroscopic surgery on my left knee due to sharp pain and some slightly rough cartilage. The surgeon did me no favors when he cut part of a torn meniscus that was keeping that joint from being bone on bone. Once he cut the meniscus edge off, the joint did of course become bone on bone, and it looked like I was destined for a TKR. I'm sure that was the objective the surgeon had. TKRs lead to much better paydays. I've been very reluctant to get a TKR due my age of 78years and not being a fan of PT. So, long story short, I went thru multiple epidurals and after having read articles online, I saw where hyaluronic acid injections were often successful. I tried three of those (low viscosity) and they were not successful. Then I saw where there is a version of high viscosity HLA (aka Durolane) that has been successful. I asked my knee ortho doctor why she hadn't offered that option and said it wasn't covered by Medicare. I said I didn't care, and I would pay the $450 out of pocket. Later I asked them to apply to Medicare to get it paid by the program and that effort was successful. I later went on to ask her if she knew about HLA oral capsules (a note from the Mayo Clinic patient blog) and she said she never heard of them. Not a believer! Well, that was several months ago and I'm still doing well with my knee pain. My difficulty is with walking with arthritic knees that ache a bit (I'm a tin man like you), so I'm relearning the finer points of easy walking (doing one hour each AM). I've also become a real fan of radio frequency ablation that is working well after 2 months, and I'm hopeful it will be as long as 6 months of relief.