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Talking Frankly about Living with Advanced Cancer

Cancer | Last Active: Jun 18, 2023 | Replies (508)

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@gingerw I just went on 5 wishes website, the wording of the wishes are direct and meaningful, thank you for sharing it. I am on such a surreal journey, last year at this time I couldn't even imagine that I'd have terminal cancer. I keep changing what I thought about my wishes. Initially I didn't want any pain killer that made me muddled in thinking. Now that the pain's increasing I'm beginning to feel differently. I know I want to minimize the suffering my family feels at watching my decline. I'm not sure really how to do that, I cannot reassure them of anything except my love for them....

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@ibern Your family is also going through so many levels of understanding and grief over your condition as it is today and may progress to in the future. Assuring them of your love for them is precious to all. You cannot script for them how to feel. Script only for yourself. Allow two or more important members of your family to understand that your desires may change as your condition changes. This is critical in adjusting things. It's a difficult situation to be in I know. Sending gentle cyber hugs to you today.
Ginger