@gingerw I just went on 5 wishes website, the wording of the wishes are direct and meaningful, thank you for sharing it. I am on such a surreal journey, last year at this time I couldn't even imagine that I'd have terminal cancer. I keep changing what I thought about my wishes. Initially I didn't want any pain killer that made me muddled in thinking. Now that the pain's increasing I'm beginning to feel differently. I know I want to minimize the suffering my family feels at watching my decline. I'm not sure really how to do that, I cannot reassure them of anything except my love for them....