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Talking Frankly about Living with Advanced Cancer
Cancer | Last Active: Jun 18, 2023 | Replies (508)Comment receiving replies
@IndianaScott Like you and @burrkay I have gotten all my papers together, back in 2015 when my rare kidney disease diagnosis was given. Each day is another one of gratitude. I filled out a 5 Wishes booklet to indicate my desires, and even wrote my own obituary. Funeral plans made and paid for, and that is included in packet. While it is such a sensitive subject for so many to address, my approach was to extend my kindness to others and make things as gentle as possible for them, thinking what I would like to know if in their shoes (because I have been!). And don't forget to annually or semi-annually review everything if there are changes.
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@gingerw Perfect! I love the "five wishes booklet", indicated ones desires...I have yet to write my obituary but will do it as soon as things slow down a bit...just back from a nice vacation with my dear wife. Thanks for sharing!
@gingerw I just went on 5 wishes website, the wording of the wishes are direct and meaningful, thank you for sharing it. I am on such a surreal journey, last year at this time I couldn't even imagine that I'd have terminal cancer. I keep changing what I thought about my wishes. Initially I didn't want any pain killer that made me muddled in thinking. Now that the pain's increasing I'm beginning to feel differently. I know I want to minimize the suffering my family feels at watching my decline. I'm not sure really how to do that, I cannot reassure them of anything except my love for them....
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Good to hear @gingerw I will never forget our daughter whispering to me in the funeral home 'I am so glad we know exactly what Mom wanted. Can you imagine having to question ourselves with every decision?'
Enjoy your Friday!