@ibern and @IndianaScott
As for “end of life” preparation, assuming the usual legal “mumbo jumbo” has been done, most of us overlook the obvious.
A friend who lost her husband unexpectedly, came up with a “Survivors List”. It helps account for those obvious day to day things that we take for granted; but fail to think what those left behind will encounter once we are gone. If your spouse pays the bills, where are the records kept? Put it in the list! What are the utility shut off requirements for winter? Add to the list! Who to contact for the yard care? Add to the list...etc., etc.,
We have done a pretty comprehensive “Survivors List” and placed a copy in our safe deposit box at the bank, provided a copy for our kids and our financial planner and lawyer.
If you would like a redacted generic list, let me know and I will be happy to put one together and send it.
Best of luck to all of us who are dealing with serious health issues...thank God we found Mayo Connect where we can share our anxieties and experiences with others!