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Talking Frankly about Living with Advanced Cancer

Cancer | Last Active: Jun 18, 2023 | Replies (508)

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@windwalker

@ld57feast Hi there. You sound like a very couragious lady. I too have a husband that tends to yell at me too. He seems to do it at the very times I need him the most. Like the time I had an SVT episode where my heart rate was at 185 for hours on end and then caused a full blown panic attack. My brain was not perceiving that I was getting oxygen and I thought I was literally suffocating. He yelled at me to calm down and breathe as if I could stop that high heart rate myself. I finally crawled to my phone and called for an ambulance. I realize that that is how he deals with the stress when he feels helpless to help me. Perhaps that is what is going on with your hubby. I realize that his drinking is probably the real problem. Some people become mean drunks. Have you discussed this with him?

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Windwalker, your reply was so good to hear. My husband is trying to quit drinking it had been 2 months. 2 beers later and the mean comes out. I truly believe you are correct, that the stress of watching me through this cancer is very stressful. Checking on him talking to someone and us talking in an intelligent, adult manor. I love Mayo Clinic connect! You made my day thank you