testlady, I understand your feeling too, In 2015 I was coughing a whole lot, went to the emt and he took a xray, said I had Pneumonia, primary care doc wanted a cat scan. Which showed fluid in my left lung. So had to have that drained October 27.2015, again in november. My heart doc said to get a lung doc, which id did who sent me to a lung sureogon (sp) can't spell tonight! Anyway Jan 22,16 I had lung surgery. Doc put a 2inch 4 foot long in my lung to drain. Couple days later told me I had two kinds of lung cancer. One pplain ole lung cancer the other is Mesothelioma. This is from Asbestosis that my husband worked with while mixing plaster for plasters from 1955 to 1983. Nothing can be done with this. I have the blank thinking at times, perhaps this is the fog you talk about. One of the things I have done is attend church Sundays & Wednesday evenings. This is prayers for me and I can talk to the group. Witch eases the fog some. Talk to someone besides your psychologist. Other people without a "degree" does and will help. Best of prayers for you! (shortshot80) Nancy

Thank you Nancy. I can feel your kindness through your words.

Hello Nancy @shortshot80

I agree with @testlady, you have articulated a wonderful attitude and taught us some coping skills for dealing with cancer. Talking with others was a great suggestion.

Teresa

By the way I am 84, will be married 67 years in October (21) and my husband has his own set of probllems. He will be 90 In Oct 27. He has a full time catheter which is changed monthly. He has asbestosis and is on oxygen 3/4 of the time. With our age to fight along with our problems we still go out to play bingo at the nearest casino. We talk to others there too. Bob also has a walker. So the "fog" is there too for him. Life is meant to "live". Don't lose yourself in your problems, voice yourself here, you would be surprised on what you can say,and
and hear/read so try to voice your fears here. Don't allow them to kill you sooner than what is meant to be!. Shortshot80} Nancy

Thank you, I just use my ability to have been in certain situations in my past. I have had 33 surgeries to gain knowledge from. It has not been fun at all, but I did learn a few things to pass on.Now I have a Lung cancer that I cannot survive from. This has put me in a very low place. Sometimes the words just come, when reading some of the stories. Nancy @shortshot80

@shortshot80

I'm so glad that you are part of this discussion group, Nancy. Your words flow beautifully in response to the needs of others!

Teresa

I hear you. I'm in partial remission, and I just keep waiting for the scan that shows progression or the pain to return.

@nogginquest. Thanks for your honesty. I am already tired of being told not to be negative. I am human. Some of my emotions in response to loss & grief are negative. I dont want to stop being fully human. Silly people. I have never liked simplistic responses to complex human experiences.

@ventibug

You are sooo right! Simplistic responses to complex problems are not at all helpful. They reflect a lack of understanding. I have learned to soften my irritation to simplistic responses by realizing that they simply don't understand my situation and chalk off their response to ignorance and lack of experience in the tough stuff of life.

Groups like Connect give us a place to share with others who understand. That is probably why we are all here.

Teresa

It's very hard, @testlady I have to work on myself too. There is hope for me of no more recurrences and I am 72 so I can attain a philosophical attitude but I know what you mean. May the sun shine through the fog. You are not alone.