Oh, Judi, I'm so sorry. I can't imagine adding all of that to what you already have to do. It's also so sad you had to cancel your celebration.
You deserve a ride on the Pity Bus; get in, I'll drive.
I'm always amazied at healthcare workers and family members that have such 'great advise" or "helpful suggestions" for what else we can add to our already stressful day.
Thinking of you,
Trish