and take one day at a time. Only the Higher Power (God) can predict what will happen today and in the future. Just deal with one minute, one hour, one day as AA says and know that we are all here for you.

Ruth

Think what a better world it would be if we all, the whole world, had cookies and milk about three o'clock every afternoon and then lay down on our blankets for a nap.
–Barbara Jordan

Hi mnitchke, it's good to know this forum is here for all of us caregivers as we travel through all the stages of illness with our loved one. As a carer whose husband who told its terminal now, we prepared as was advised. I mainly did all the admin. As directed by my husband. That in itself was exhausting and overwhelming at times. Preparing for death. As more people live longer, I feel us carers become the advocates but there are things that no one can really answer, it's such a day at a time process. There was so much work for me to do to help him prepare, so that when he did pass there would be nothing for anyone to fight over. It would all be in order or sorted before. But there's one big thing that can't be prepared or sorted, my emotional health as I can only deal with it in present time, so I found solace living in the moment often. This is not an easy road, some days are better than others, some days very bad. Keep reaching out and sharing. It's helps me , I hope it will help you too. M.Nina

So good. So true.. So helpful. Thank you for that post.