OK .... I'm just going to throw this out there, I probably know what you all will say, but I need to hear it. You all know I was divorced 10 years ago after being married for 40 years to a Narcissist. I've been blissfully happy, when I lived in MD, in my own condo, with my church, lots of friends, and I knew my way around. Well, my 3 kids hounded me for 5 years to move down to where they are - VA (my son lives in Alexandria, VA) - they live in the mountains. Finally I relented and moved. This was really tough .... here I was in a new place, no friends, no doctors, no church, no anything, plus the fact that I don't like it. Well, my X and I both have a serious concern about one of our girls and her husband regarding money. I stay out of my kids business totally, but this is getting serious. I've been praying for an opening to gently say something, and I found out my X has too. He's struggling with it .... he is very good at financial things. I just talked to him on the phone about the situation and found myself wishing he'd invite me to go out. OMG! What am I thinking. I know a Narcissist never changes, so why am I once again feeling lured into this trap - which I know it is. I agree, I am lonesome here, only see my girls once a week, and do plan to get a job after the holidays .... that will help. But, what is it that the N has that has this "drawing" feeling? I know what it was like before, and I know who I am now .... not the same person, and he would hate how sassy I've become (no more "good Suzie"). Why do I even think about doing this? I think I really must be off my rocker, or desperate or something.
Input please?
abby