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Mental Health | Last Active: Dec 17, 2017 | Replies (31)

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The man I was married to for 14 years died suddenly in 2014 thus becoming a hero by leaving my 3 children with money-interesting how after I divorced him how he did get a real job. Also interesting how nothing was ever his fault. My mother died in 2012 and left one sister w/ everything. These type of people have a way of recognizing someone they can con...Still working on shutting both of them up even though they have died their words live on.

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Aug 19, 2017

@parus, I am sorry that your ex, mother and sister left you feeling empty. That certainly is painful.

NPs have an outside locus of control, nothing can be their fault - they just couldn't take it. Picture a circle with all positive signs inside the circle, this is the thinking of the NP - they believe that only good exists within them, therefore if there is a negative in their life - it must be someone else's fault.

However, their words of criticism, or negativity seem to stay with us, sometimes even after their death. From my own experience, I've found the best thing to do is to actively refute them with words of truth. For example, when a negative thought comes to mind from the past, write down a truthful thought that refutes it. It can work, but it takes time.