Yes, I was fine .... I just don't take any of his crap anymore ..... "good Suzie" who never would sass anyone, left town and her twin and sometimes evil sister has shown up ..... and boy does she have some comebacks. He just stares at me in disbelief. Love it!
About 2 years ago I moved from MD to VA to be closer to my girls - at their insistence and hounding - and of course, he has built this grand house - all for show again, down this way also. Meanwhile I live in a limited income apartment, but I'm happy. I do wonder if I ever should have moved down here though. It was a hard decision and even harder adjustment. But when I see the looks on my girls faces and my gandkids .... I know it was right. I just have to keep Mr. "aren't I wonderful" in his place.
abby

Abby @amberpep,

It sounds like you have found a way of dealing with your ex. Maybe you have even found your voice?

Teresa

That's exactly what has happened Teresa. I never, ever, would disagree with him, I wore the clothes he liked, thought politically as he did, if he didn't like my hair, I changed it and on and on and on. And to even think of sassing him was totally out of the question .... that brought the well-worn phrase, "you're just irrational and illogical." Hmmmmmm ..... I don't think so. I was really prime for marriage to an N because as an only child growing up in a totally alcoholic home, you learn to keep your mouth shut, don't sass, don't disagree, just be there ..... sort of like a stone garden ornament.
I believe I mentioned this before, but one of the first times I saw my therapist 12 years ago, he said, "I see a good Suzie in you ..... we're going to dismantle her." WHAT???? OMG ..... I thought he was nuts! But, knowing how good he was I stuck it out and I'm forever grateful I did.
abby

Abby @amberpep

It sounds like we have a lot in common. At one time I was a doormat as well - not a good place to be!

Teresa