@lylii Unfortunately, this is the most likely reality. I'm a bright and young 74, but we have no parents left, my wife and I, and we've learned a few things. First, thank God for aged adults who realize they shouldn't demand too much from, or impose upon, their children in their final two years of life. If those children are in their 70's there's little they can do except to offer transport now and then, sit with them in hospital ERs, pick up something at the store or at the post office, maybe install a stick vacuum bracket in a closet....that kind of thing. In my Dad's final days I was swapping toilet seats so that he could deal with his urinary catheter more easily. He kept wanting bigger ones so he could reach between his legs better. I offered to drive him every Thursday to his singing group because it was not a great imposition, he loved the experience and routine, and I wanted him happy. Oh, and I got to get a brisk 45 minute walk in while he sang with his group. That was gold to me because I couldn't spend much time away from my ailing wife. !!!!!!!

My Dad prized his autonomy. He passed his driver's license at 95, ten months before he passed via MAID. MAID as in, 'I'm going out when I want to, thanks very much.' He did most of his own grocery shopping, but he was frail and fell easily. The burden, because I was handy, became frequent and almost onerous. He would call at odd hours needing to be taken to the hospital, and I was it. He wouldn't dream of calling for an ambulance.

Think this through if your parent won't....or can't. There is a substantial cost, and one of them should NOT be resentment. Take it from me.