@kjoed53 , those are excellent points to consider. If I look at what has brought satisfaction to the seniors I see who have retired, I see those who are near amenities they can easily access such as medical facilities, grocery stores, pharmacy, restaurants, parks, etc. to be as positive factors. In some small communities transportation isn’t as available as larger cities, so being nearby services is crucial.

I work full time, but am also a caregiver for my mother, who is in a nursing home. Previously, I cared for her and my father in the home. Her current care still requires a lot of my time almost daily. I stay nearby to facilitate that. But based on what I have observed over the last 10 years, it’s not common for adult children to devote a significant amount of time in visiting or attending to their parents’ care or needs, even if they live close by. People think it’ll certainly happen, but it’s surprising how often it doesn’t. The visits are often infrequent and the parents end up disappointed and relying on friends and hired professionals. My parent’s friends often tell me they are shocked and dismayed.

So, I would talk to many of your peers to see what they are experiencing. Adult children pay caregiving, visiting, etc. their parents lip service, but in realty, it might not pan out. No judgment, no blame…..but it’s often the case even when living in the same city. You know your kids, but I’d really be cautious before moving from a place you love and that will meet your needs in the future.