@cocobean26 You want me to be realistic? No, there is no option other than to become immobilized and lose your independence. I've been through 3 spine surgeries and going back for one more. I am GRATEFUL I found an awesome surgeon. It took 20 years and my lumbar nerves suffered permanent damage so I suggest NOT waiting. My cervical spine surgery was complicated by my soft bones which couldn't hold the screws. So even though I had to have a second surgery which was complicated and I lost some mobility I am THRILLED that I acquired the stability I needed to continue my life alone! I asked friends of friends and found a great lady to come to my house and act as my caretaker to get me through the first couple weeks. Then I asked some cousins to come for a few days and rotated whoever would help me. Then I was better than I had been in years and years. Work with your doctors. Work with a social app like Nextdoor and people will show up to help (watch for scammers!) Obviously your docs think your strong enough for the surgery and I hope they are confident in their work. Read their reviews ask if can talk to anyone who they've done surgery on who might be willing to help you. I wanted my life back. It was just something I had to go through. I ended up with a wonderful doctor after many years of kissing a lot of frogs. good luck.