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To move near family or stay put
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We now live in a nice large community near beaches in Delaware and our adult children & grandchildren live 10 to 12 hours away. We are 70 & 74. We like it here & have a few friends here but not very close. We miss our kids & grandkids very much. Our kids visit 1 x year for the beach. We have 3 daughters in their 30’s & 40’s & one is an RN BSN. We always travel to them in Asheville & Nashville for holidays since it hard for them to travel long distance, otherwise we’d be alone. Our kids want us to live closer as we age either in Asheville or Nashville. We both had some medical stuff the past 2 years & are ok now. Since we are pretty healthy & independent now @ 70 & 74 we are discussing whether it makes sense to start looking into moving closer to our children whether it’s Asheville or Nashville area in a 55 plus community.
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@sef26 if you are currently independent and on the healthier side, willing and able to be closer to family, it’s a great idea to move by choice rather than struggle during a crisis. I’ve been a geriatric care manager for 25 years and have seen many seniors ( I am one myself now) age at a distance from those who might be able to assist in a crisis. Of course, working with a certified professional care manager during a crisis or challenging time can be very helpful for everyone involved, if you’re close to your family it’s a lot easier. For more information on professional care managers check out aginglifecare.org.
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Think about the things that you like about where you live now and if you can replicate those things if you move. Be realistic about how more often you would see your kids and grandkids if you move closer to them. Look seriously into the healthcare available in any location you're considering. Check into the cost and quality of living at each location. Look into the cultural opportunities and the culture at each location. If traveling is important to you, think about how close you want to be to major airport. If church participation is important to you, check out the local ones in wherever you're considering moving. Do you want to choose between the Nashville area and the Asheville area or are you considering something halfway? The fact that you are asking our group makes me think you're not fully buying into a move yet. If you were only to see your children and grandchildren as often as you do now, would you be as happy in the new location? Besides your children and grandchildren, what is important to you?
@sef26 My husband and I have a vacation home in a small town near Asheville. Our plan was to move there full time when he retired. We have a daughter and her family who live near Charlotte. Well a couple of years after we bought the house, our son and his family moved to the town we are currently in. I see them once a week for Sunday dinner . I often pick up my granddaughter at school and take her to her after school activities. So I wasn’t willing to make the move to NC full time. One concern I have about the Asheville area is not an abundance of hospitals . The primary hospital is now owned by HCA and has had numerous violations for inadequate staffing in ER, etc. The Asheville area is beautiful and we enjoy it. We were fortunate to have no damage from Hurricane Helene in 2024. Good luck in your decision.
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Depending on your budget Crowfields in Asheville is a beautiful community. Good luck with your decision