@royanthony I struggled with that when I did use porn a long time ago. Now I just concentrate on what my wife and I had prior to her injuries and lack of lubrication. I actually enjoy oral also on her even and it is a great turn on when I see her get off. but now even that is not something she likes anymore. so it's my memories that help me masturbate and I figured if I'm in my mind doing it with my wife how can I be doing anything against what God gave us as married couple. Just my take on it

@royanthony You are using the word "lust" wrong. In the Biblical sense when it is referred to in a negative way that hurts people, the situations are like fixating on masturbation with oneself in a marriage but ignoring your wife and not having sex with her. Or becoming addicted to masturbation to the extent that it overwhelms your life like alcoholism. Or fetishizing brutal and dehumanizing fantasies. Those are "unhealthy " on a personal and relational basis, and those are the situations described when lust (and masturbation as in spilling seed) are referred to.

However, just regular masturbation with fun positive fantasies that doesn't create personal or relational problems is healthy - emotionally and biologically.