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I have one BIG problem that has come up and I am dreading it. I say this because it is something that I will have to deal with and do not want to. That is his daughter. This is the one that showed up in his hospital room when he first had heart problems, with a will for him to sign.
He called her yesterday to tell her about his upcoming surgery, and she is starting up again and I just do not want to put up with it. I have enough on my plate.
NOW, he did not even hear from her on Father's Day! Nadda for any other holiday, but she did drop off a plate of cookies (store bought) on our front porch for Christmas. The only time we hear from her is when she wants something for free, our grill for her deadbeat son, H's golf clubs for the other son, etc., trying to get him to change his will etc. Then she is all over him with attention etc.
I just cannot deal with her on top of everything.
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@kartwk I know it is so frustrating to have to deal with someone who only wants stuff from you and your husband. The stolen jewelry is awful. Lock that and any other valuable stuff up. I agree with an another post that you have to set boundaries. You can control visits to your own home for starters. As to changing his will, I am wondering if he changes his will now if it would even be considered valid considering his dementia. My estate attorney told me when I saw her recently to change my will that we could not make any changes to our trust because of my husband's dementia. My husband is not capable of understanding what he would be asked to sign. I can only change things that require just my signature. So if your husband has been diagnosed with cognitive impairment then you could tell his daughter that any changes to his will now would be considered invalid. Maybe that will dissuade her from continuing to try to get him to change it. Keep posting here to vent and get some moral support. Good luck to you and your husband with the surgery.
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Setting boundaries is so hard but necessary.
I find it helpful to write a bulleted list of points I want to make, because in the heat of things we get emotional and may forget the important things we want to share.
Good luck! 🫂