@ladamato PS, I just sent you a longer response but know those kids don't hate you. They probably hate the fact, that they don't have the type of relationship that you have with your husband. Or the ability to control their Dad the way they used to. What's interesting, knowing his condition, they probably wouldn't want to be his caregiver anyway. They just want to give you a hard time. There could fear, anger, who knows, deep-rooted stuff from when they grew up, and their parents divorced, and then hell, they blame the evil stepmother for everything while oh, by the way, that evil stepmother is the one doing the caregiving. I'm there. I know. Know that you are not alone and know that just the mere fact that you say, "i will do anything I can to help him stay in the early stages as long as I can" - you've set a loving boundary! Yes, you've got this in spite of his difficult adult children. You have my vote, Best, Karla