Please know that I share your concerns. My mother’s friends do not realize the stress I am under with being sole caregiver for my 89 year old mother with dementia. Each of her friends insist on coming out to our ranch to visit. We put out a blanket text that all are welcome anytime, but few have actually come. (2 out of 6 or 8 friends ) I even have lunch prepared for them when they come out because it is a 90 minute drive from the city. What they don’t realize is my mom is very sick with a progressive disease. Each day is different and can be devastating and demanding at times. I resent that they give me unsolicited advise and judge me on my mother being so far away and sometimes I cancel an appointment for her to receive friends when mom is experiencing agitation, extreme sundowning, or depression.
Hugs, Michelle