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Sister still drinking despite consequences, any advice?
Addiction & Recovery | Last Active: Aug 16 4:30am | Replies (72)Comment receiving replies
Religion = external locus of control.
Spirituality = internal locus of control.
Dependence on any program to maintain sobriety is external locus of control. The goal of Agency Strengthening is to relieve dependence of any external or outside influence. Its ok to enjoy them. Just stop telling yourself and others, yourself especially, that you NEED them. I cant stress enough that what you tell yourself the most about you. You will come to believe. I hear many people share that its "you people here keep me sober... this place... this big book...these steps...etc".... How about .." My choices keep me sober" What if we share that at our next meeting. Recovery isnt a life sentence. And if your telling yourself it is a life sentence for you. Then you're telling yourself the wrong things.
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Hey Trooper.
Very interesting comparison of religion and spirituality - focus of control.
I prefer not to give up control to anything outside myself, although it is required almost every day.
Joe
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@trooperdogg1960 Recovery, to me, is a new and different way to live. I would not say I am dependent on AA, but in the beginning I certainly was. At this point in my life, I do need others to trust and be able to ask, "Is my perception of this situation off?" I also agree, that it is my choice whether I pick back up a drink or drug. No one else's. I believe I will never be able to drink or use mood altering substances again, in this life, anyway. I have proven that over and over from a very young age. I appreciate your reply and I have read many of them on this site.