@gratia for sure! Saving energy for priorities, little enjoyable tasks or rests. We all need to find a way to have horses or days of respite if at all possible though!
I find it takes about two days for me to feel rested and relaxed, if my housemate goes away.
On the third day I realize things that used to be joyful still are! Because I now have a little more energy to actually do these things.
Keep up the good fight!
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@gratia I feel for everyone writing here and find the same thing.

We are moving soon. We sold our house of almost 46 years. The process of giving away or discarding things we do not need anymore is cathartic. My husband has hardly helped with this process but hasn’t interfered very much either. That has actually been helpful. He very often forgets the dates of the move and I have printed out a calendar for him to try to help him keep track of the process and understand it.

I’m hoping that when the move is over and we are settled we can get into a new and better routine. I would love to find a way to do a little more on my own.

Yes…this is very hard and not the way I’d like to be spending my senior years. I try to be the person who is a loving and supportive caregiver but I also feel stuck and sad.