My first deceased husband had online porn addiction..i was the good little codependent trying to save fix rescue. The reality. I held hus hand through his last breath. His issue contributed to him being so distracted he could not focus on his health. I got critically ill in may 2014 2 years after his death. Cardiopulmonary arrest. 6 months before his death he said I want to live to walk the green grass again. I did. I wish I could be more positive about your family member. Sometimes consewuences are the best teacher. Yes I have had trauma recovery a lot of therapy lots of medical care. I got a chance and still do to work hard on me change me. Take care of you first and foremost.