Hi. My husband suffered in pain for 12 months with a catheter, often ending up in tears. We had to get a new bedroom carpet because he forgot to close his nightbag properly on night. My husband is a big strong powerful (physically) man and I would see him in tears with the pain and frustration knowing there was a long waiting list for the prostate op, he just wanted to rip it out at times because he coukdnt stand it anymore. He felt he'd lost his masculinity, wouldnt want to go anywhere and when we did, it had to be somewhere where he could empty his bag. He wasnt an easy man to live with, he also worried because I had to go without intercourse. Having a new cartheter every 3 months would see him pale, sweating and virtually unable to walk. Ill never understand why men aren't given a sedative or something for this procedure.
Anyway, in January he finally had his prostate removed and when that final catheter came out, he was overwhelmed. Few months on now, his willy is a bit smaller, his orgasms, he says, seem to be more intense though dry but his sensation isnt good. He cant get a full erection and intercourse is more of a miss then a hit. He's on the waiting list to see somebody about this, he has tried 2 over the counter generic viagra pills which dont work. He stresses about this but I have my husband back, healthy, pain free and after exercises, strong bladder control. We are in our early 60s, healthy and looking forward to our retirement. Ive got the man I want back and im sure in time Mr Willy will rise to the occasion. If it doesnt, Ive still got my husband back.