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Sister still drinking despite consequences, any advice?
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Thank you Joe you are again an encouragement to me. You remind me there is hope. She had cut me off from communications with her (still has) when I told her either do the Raleigh House outpatient or risk losing her health (already has) , her sons (pretty close) and her freedom (she just has). But she still talks a little to my brother who called here and talked to my wife yesterday. My Bro found out from one of my sister's few friends left. In the last few days she decided to bag Raleigh House till she has more time (really , she is retired, what a lie). Then got drunk , crashed her car a third time and was arrested by Douglas County Sheriffs and spent a night in jail before bailing herself out. But now agreed to do Inpatient !!! Her first day is supposed to be today. Praying she hit bottom as you did 16 years ago. I would have loved her trying AA but her not believing in a higher power nor even admitting a problem took that option out. But praying she shows up today and they give her drugs and keep her for a while. I got an email this morning with your latest response and it gave me hope she has hit bottom. Thanks again. Have a great July.
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@craigcraig I have read all the comments and I empathize with your situation. I see both sides, honestly. I am in recovery and have been sober for several years now. I am 55 years old and was in treatment at 14, 19, 30 and detox again at 41 (I think, hard to remember). Anyway, my mom use to say, "as long as you were alive, we had hope." (my family). My partner of 28 years died from this disease. He was 56 years old. It is a reality. Having said that, he was the same when it came to AA. I suggest you read the first 146 pages of the AA Big Book. It might help you understand her, how you can help or not, there is a specific chapter to the Agnostics, and family. I also think Al-anon would help. They are available on Zoom if you don't want to get out. You don't even have to say anything, you can just listen. She is the only one who has the choice. If she is entertaining treatment, whether outpatient or inpatient, that is a good sign. Sounds like the justice system is enabling her. Maybe this latest DUI will produce some results. Sometimes judges will order treatment in lieu of jail, put an ankle monitor on that can detect alcohol...I hope so. I know this is brutal to watch. When I got sober 12/16/17, I was at the bottom. My brother refused to talk to me unless I quit drinking. I am going to post a link to the Big Book, here. I will also post al-anon information. Hang in there. One day at a time. I know it is painful to watch and to be powerless over her alcoholism.