@grandmajoan a verse that’s always encouraged me to take care of myself: Love thy neighbor AS THYSELF. This equates to what the airlines tell us: Put on your own oxygen mask first.
Two years of counseling finally drilled into my head that taking care of myself as well as I would take care of another person is NOT selfish.
Please look for ways and opportunities to take care of yourself. Find and use ways to relax, have peace.
Caregiver burn-out is very real.
You are just as important as anyone else.