Mom moved in with me and my husband 4 yrs ago. She is now 99 and still going strong. She works in the garden , picks up after the dogs, bakes banana bread and does the dishes every night after we have dinner. The worst thing you can do for an older person is to do everything for them. They need a purpose and a reason to get up every day. Their strength comes from the reason to live. I have left her alone for days while we go on vacation. I have some friends and neighbors who will look in on her and she can call us at any time. I am 72 and hope I can live like she has.
The question of DNR is a personal one. If she had various medical issues that might make a difference. Did I mention she is on no medication? She wonders why she is still here, but I could never help her make a decision one way or another for her. If she had medical issues I believe she would suggest the DNR would be her best way to go. When getting up from a chair, she stretches. She feels comfortable around my house because it is on a single level. She walks 2 blocks to get the mail twice a week and looks forward to continue living. I don't know when or where it will end but CPR will not be in the picture for her. I am 72 and question this for myself. A good thing to discuss with family and friends who know you.