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What brought you joy today?

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Right!!
Too peoply.
Avoid line-ups.
Knowing your boundaries.
I need my space.
Imperative to take a B-line to thee Loo.

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@zenren14 Yep. The best thing you can do with a bucket list is put it in a bucket and carry it out to the trash. I've never seen the point of gaping at things just to check them off a list. 🙂 The best moments travelling are the unexpected and unplanned ones.

In 2021, after my de-novo stage 4 diagnosis, when I was paralysed in a hospital bed and thinking I'd never walk again and live only a few more years, my thoughts weren't "I wish I'd made it to see Machu Picchu/walked the Camino/visited the Great Wall of China/hiked the Grand Canyon" or anything like that. They were "I wish I could go back home and walk down the street and buy groceries again, or sit in the local pizza restaurant with my spouse, or go to the family cottage." It turned out people who haven't faced death close up don't know what they're talking about when they drone on about "if you were going to die tomorrow...": there are no regrets about big headline-level things; the little things *are* the big things.

p.s. I was incredibly fortunate, and contrary to expectations in 2021, I can do all those "little things" again now.