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Anyone Else With PTSD?

Mental Health | Last Active: Nov 26, 2023 | Replies (666)

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Hello, @vickimurray - welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect. Sounds like you have been through a lot of pain from your upbringing with verbal and emotional abuse from your father. It sounds difficult that your extended family does not seem to get it and expects you to "pull yourself up by your bootstraps."

Hoping members in this discussion like @liz67 @parus @alamogal635 @peach414144 @hopeful33250 @crissdawn and others will return to offer their thoughts on 1) your experiences with abuse in your childhood and 2) other people telling you to count your blessings and how that may not be sufficient, given the past trauma.

Have you felt that the years and years of therapy were useful in your journey, vickimurray?

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No doubt therapy has saved by life. I had some smatterings of therapy as an adult, but the real work began after I returned from Afghanistan. My PTSD doesn't have anything to do with Afghanistan, as a matter of fact, that two years was the best of my life. I was the executive assistant for the director of a DOS program training Afghan police officers. I made amazing friends from all over the world, some of whom I still correspond with. The biggest advantage was getting to work with my son who had retired from the army and was working for a DOD Afghan program eradicating poppy. Getting to see him in his environment was truly (uh oh, I'm going to say it) a blessing. Not many mothers get to serve in a war zone with their child. I was happy, engaged in my work, and I felt wonderful about myself, especially when I went home and my folks treated me like the greatest thing since sliced bread. That was the general rule; if you were doing something out of the ordinary, they loved you; if you were just normal old Vicki or normal old Matthew, they didn't care about you so much. Anyway, when I came home from Afghanistan, I was definitely on the verge of losing it. I was working for a small social services company, and I picked up the phone and called their help line. I met the most extraordinary therapist who specialized in PTSD, and who completely understood the nature of PTSD, civilian or any other kind. Through my therapist I met a psychiatrist who really has his head screwed on right, and knows more about medications of all kinds than any doctor I've ever met. I've been seeing my therapist and psychiatrist for almost ten years. So, in answer to your question about whether or not therapy has done me good, oh, yes. However, it has to be the right psych team, and it has been my experience that that scenario is sometimes very hard to come by. I wish you luck in finding an appropriate team for yourself.