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deme17z
My husband 86 yr-old was diagnosed with mild age related dementia a couple of years ago He is taking mementine and donepecil tabs.Yes, he doesnt do anything inthe house escept watching TV and sleeping.He has weak balance and walking. He uses a walker so it is hard for him do chores in the house except if he wants his coffee{instant{he can, will fix cereal, or fruits for his snacks.Its hard I cant leave him alone in the house because am afraid he might fall because his walking is odd he drags his feet.He is doing physical theraphy for mobility and balance but looks its not helping him walk better.
3 or 4 times a week I try to think of reason so we can get out of the house for hours because if we stay in he will only sit and sleep all day if you let him. I ask him if he is tired he says no.
Sometimes I get so frustrated.
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@deme17z are the medications helping at all? Is the physio helping at all? Sometimes it’s time to call an end to ineffective therapies.
Are you able to have a schedule? Maybe if you regularly told him it’s time to go for a walk, it would help you both.
Are you able to get someone to stay with him while you go out?
Your frustration is absolutely justified.
You know, once upon a time, if a person was age 86, wanted to sleep, and was barely able to walk, family would let him sleep. Put him in a wheelchair. Not try to rehabilitate him/her.
My brother and I used to say “Dad’s 84. Let him eat what he wants.” (After 20 years of trying to stop him furthering his decline into eating unhealthy foods all the time.)
In the end, it was the incoming cancer treatment that killed Jim. He wanted to continue with it. We saw the side effects but it was his choice.
Sometimes we should just let old people do what they’re comfortable with because all the treatments and therapies are making their life more miserable.
Remember to take care of yourself!