@marilynt My husband's prostate cancer was caught early enough that a prostatectomy was an option to completely eliminate the cancer. At the time, at least 10 years ago, my husband was able to make his own health care decisions as the dementia had not reared its ugly head at that point. So he had the operation and has had no evidence of prostate cancer since. However, in 2024 he was diagnosed with Mantle cell lymphoma and underwent chemotherapy and immunotherapy that was devastating but worked and now he is in remission. The whole experience I think accelerated the onset of his dementia. He definitely had "chemo brain", lost 30 pounds and required transfusions. The chemo and immunotherapy worked and he is now in remission from that cancer. He/we have been through so much in these last years.
You are so right, it is so stressful to see what is happening and wonder what tomorrow will bring. I think when we are stressed like this we need to find something that gives us joy in the moment. For me it is gardening and music. A good Santana song takes me to another place. Keep posting here. I have found so much support and helpful comments here. I think it has saved my sanity or at least enabled me to "hang in there"