@maverick75 I have reduced sensitivity in my penis which makes it hard for me to orgasm, too. A couple of things help: First, Cabergoline greatly increases dopamine making orgasms feel much better (before Cabergoline, ejaculating did not really feel like an orgasm for me, just an emission). This may not necessarily help you achieve orgasm so much as improve them, but it is easy to try and has other benefits too (it reduces the time you need to rest between orgasms). Second, I find that by tensing my muscles and holding my breath, I can sometimes push myself over the edge. Finally, I accept that I won't always orgasm. I take pleasure in my girlfriend's pleasure and enjoy the sex and cuddling even when I don't orgasm. Or put another way, I don't expect to orgasm with her so am not disappointed when I don't.