I wish my husband could still be contrary. In the past he would often challenge anything that I wanted to spend money on that he did not think was necessary. Now, he can barely get out more than 5-6 words in a day. He sleeps all day and is only out of bed when I get him up to feed him or take him outside for some sunshine. This contrariness will end someday because the dementia will eventually take away his ability to speak. I know it is difficult to live with someone that has a contrary personality. I know that with this dementia caregiving journey that I am on, I have become more emotionally fragile. I am not able to tolerate any opposition by anybody not just him. I am trying my best, as I am sure you are, but somehow it seems like it is just not enough. I am tired of this whole thing but realize that I just have to be patient and take it one day at a time. Posting here has been an enormous help knowing that I am not alone in this and that out there in the big wide world there are also people who get what this is like. May God bless you and give you the courage and patience you need.