@gprior Gloria, it truly is a difficult decision. I don’t know what my daughter will do as she won’t discuss it.
And my brother doesn’t want to know. But that puts one in a potential risky situation. The benefit of knowing is that the suggested tests can be done early to hopefully catch anything early. Did your husband have a family member with known cancer? My mom had two, uterine and colon. I don’t know anything about her family, but it had to have appeared somewhere along her line. And with this damaged gene, various cancers are possible. So maybe your husband’s particular cancer wouldn’t be passed although a different and treatable one could. I believe it would be beneficial to know. As well as the pathology report, do you also have a genetic report with details of family risk? I think that would give you particulars for your family. To watch deterioration of a loved one is excrutiating. I am so sad for you.