@sivad you’re a good person. I’m sure sorry for the financial disaster. My mom did the same to my stepdad. I’d warned him the year before to cancel her credit cards and access to the joint chequing account but he didn’t want to “rock the boat”. He regretted it when she maxed out their gold card.
Now, thankfully, he controls the farm income and she complains about having to pay for things from her old age pension.
You did the right thing.
In my case, my friend and housemate is not my husband or romantic partner so I have no control over anything. But so far, financially, he’s stable with the joint bills. Although he’s not so stable with his own money, but I can’t prevent that.
Best of luck and blessings to you!
🌻 Sunny