@kjc48 My husband went from rehab, which was horrible IMHO, to independent living, where he did relatively well once he settled in. That took 3 or 4 months and he was in independent for about 8 months. I had arranged for him to go to assisted living, which would have been not very different from independent but with more care, but when he was evaluated, he was deemed ready for memory care. That was a shock to me, as I hadn't expected that. So, he moved to memory care, where he continued to decline. He's been there for a little over a month and his decline has been precipitous. I see now that assisted living wouldn't have worked at all. Independent was around $3500/mo. for one meal a day and three kinds of therapy. I provided the other two meals and that meant a lot of running around for me. It kept the cost down somewhat. Now memory care is maybe $1k more and it's a secure facility with three meals a day and two snacks, with 27/7 caregivers always present. He now has a doctor affiliated with the facility, so I don't have to take him to those appointments anymore. I recently took him to the dentist to have an infected tooth extracted and I was told that he probably wouldn't need to see the dentist again as the whole business is upsetting to him and, not incidentally, to me. He was inappropriate in the waiting room and memory care doesn't send residents to the dentist anymore. You can't stop time. I was very lucky to find him a good place so quickly. I'll never know, but my daughter is a social worker who knows a lot of the folks at the residence, so I suspect she might have put a word in for her stepfather. Just a guess on my part, but I was quite lucky that things moved so quickly. I hope you find solutions that fit your situation. Lord knows, I realize how difficult this is.