I know we all have different philosophies regarding sharing. I tend to overshare, specifically to address the stigma that’s associated with it.

Everyone I know, if they ask and I have the time, gets a complete rundown of my bladder habits, sexual function, and whatever else is or will be going on (I’m fortunate right now in that all I’m dealing with is incontinence and ED).

My feeling is, if I’m hiding it, I’m feeding that Shame Monster. There should be nothing to be embarrassed about in having to wear “protective undergarments” - my niece, who routinely works with older folks in her job as a geriatric studies professor, taught me that phrase: “Don’t say diapers! You’re not a baby!” Gotta love her!

I own it. My family knows, my coworkers know. HR knows. My neighbors know. Hell, my hair stylist knows (and she’s been a rock of support, believe it or not). I’m loud and proud about it.